Watch this PSA:
Now ask yourself exactly what the "father" in this situation was supposed to be doing had he been there and watch again.
I believe there was a reference to a tie. There was a reference to "not being able to keep a decent relationship" Right...OK....Next. Watch it again.
No "provider". No protector. Nothing more than: "I feel bad."
Look, I grew up without my biological father in the house. I had a lot of questions. I had my moments of anger about it, but I did have a lot of men around who set examples for me. So if you're a single mother who's son hasn't learned how to tie a tie then exactly who's fault is that? If you as a single mother do not know any men who know how to tie a tie, I think that may be a part of the overall problem.
What about women who have children with no intention of having a father around? You know, because they haven't found Mr. Right yet ('cause they were busy or thought Denzel had a clone somewhere).
Where was the discussion of the financial impact of single parenting? I posted on this a long time ago, but it bears repeating that the median net worth of a black woman goes up dramatically simply by cohabiting with a man. And it works the other way too (though not to the same extent as men generally have a higher median net worth than women)
There are a lot of things that could be said here. While this piece surly pulls at the heartstrings I don't think it really gets to the heart of the matter. Not at all.
(17 years of informed commentary)